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As the 4th of July is rapidly approaching, what better time to write this letter? So here it goes, from 1 Cape Codder to a fellow human …

Dear Visitor, Tourist, or (as my dad always called “them”) “Timmie’s,

It is summer. Ah summer! Arguably one of the best times of the year. Or is it? It depends on who you ask. If you ask my father you will get an earful about how “everything has changed.” How town is full of Timmies and nothing is the same anymore. How he can’t go ANYWHERE because of traffic. Ah yes, summer.



Yes summer! That magical time of year when we say farewell to routine and hello to dinner on the beach. When you leave the doors and windows wide open. When ice cream for dinner is totally acceptable. When the kids are over tired but you stay up because missing the sunset is a crime. When you are up with the birds at 4:45 am. When you pause and think to yourself, “I was born here, I grew up here, I get to live here – 24/7, 365 days a year in one of the most beautiful places on earth sticking out in the Atlantic Ocean.” A place that people come to for vacation. A place people spend a lot of time, energy, and money on. I will say it again –



No, making a left on Rt 6A or Rt 28 is not a quick & easy feat this time of year. No, you can’t walk into your favorite restaurant and expect to be seated right away. No, not everyone is friendly. No, not everyone is respectful. No, a trip to the grocery store is not as quick as you want. No, not everyone knows where they are going or adheres to the speed limit. But YES – beyond all these labels, all our perceptions, all our judgements, and all our assumptions – YES – “we” are “them” and “they” are “us.”

I know I am not the only one who has griped about “tourists.” I was pretty damn good at complaining about all the “tourists” and their ill effects. I was raised to believe “they” were a nuisance. (But then I married a wash ashore and the rest was history – well not really!) I have to say, honestly, I was a person who used to view everyone else as being “different.” But then I had an awakening. I continue to see it though; and hear it; and witness it. The griping. The bitching. The moaning. The negativity. The toxicity.

What if we all just stuck to our own business? For real – what if you just stayed in your own court? I’m not saying don’t help other people or ask how they are doing. I’m saying don’t get caught up in the foolishness of your ego; of the stories that we all make up. So what if it takes you longer to go to Stop and Shop? So what if you have to wait for a table? I hesitate to even write this, but these are “first world problems.” And honestly, they aren’t really “problems.” A rapidly approaching tsunami is a problem. World hunger is a problem. Not, “OMG the bridge is backed up 5 miles problem.” Be responsible – leave your house earlier. Pick up your trash. If someone else has left trash on the ground – be kind to your Mother – pick it up. Don’t bitch about all the other people who aren’t doing “their” part. It’s a waste of energy. You will get nothing valuable or worthwhile in return- just the same negative commentary. So stay in your own business. Notice when you drift to being in someone else’s business, how stress, anger, anxiety, frustration, etc. creep in.

So here we are; just days away from Independence Day. To everyone visiting this little sandbar so many of us call home – WELCOME 🙂 We are thankful that you help feed our economy and thankful to share the beauty of this place with you. May we all slow down and take our time. May we all be respectful, loving, and kind to one another and to this one earth. 



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