LOOKING AT THIS MAY CHANGE YOUR LIFE
I read Hayley Hengst’s blog post the other day. It really resonated with me. It inspired me. I respect, appreciate, and applaud those who publicly share their experiences. I ask that you do the same. It takes courage to share. I re-read the post. I felt like I was reading about parts of my past self – the tired, grieving person who chose to look at life through a foggy lens. I printed the post out and feverishly started making notes; inspired to share the picture I now choose to see from a new lens.
Every stage of life is hard. It’s hard for a baby to learn to crawl. It’s hard for a kid to learn how to read. It’s hard to navigate those awkward & confusing teenage years. It’s hard to be an adult. I’m talking to anyone who has experienced hardship; conflict. So yeah, I’m talking to you. Chances are you are dealing with something in your life that is unpleasant. You are carrying something that is making you feel tired, angry, guilty, anxious, sad, frustrated, pressured, apathetic, and so on and so on. Somewhere along the way you lost sight of what you know and who you are. Enter psychology 101 (well maybe not 101). Enter Donald Rumsfeld. Enter the Johari Window.
“… there are known knowns; there are things we know we know. We also know there are known unknowns; that is to say we know there are some things we do not know. But there are also unknown unknowns – the ones we don’t know we don’t know.” – Donald Rumsfeld
What we do know is our own life experiences. Our own journey. Our own truths. There’s no one else that possesses this knowledge. I have been listening to a lot of people and I keep hearing so many common themes. And you know what? I am so FUCKING sick of it. Love sick. Now before anyone gets reactive – hear this.
I am absolutely, 110%, sweaty, passionate, can’t get enough, moth to a flame LOVE SICK about hearing the expectations, the excuses, the choices we all have and make. Because you know what? ME TOO. And through this connection there is an opportunity to help one another.
Life is hard. It is work. You may feel torn in a million directions, roaming around in the wilderness like Zelda trying to defeat Ganon (ok I totally just dated myself). You are looking out of the window for answers. For direction. Next time you are feeling pulled; beat up; or stuck – try this. Look INTO the window. Your window. You will find the answers there. Look closely. Polish your soul’s binoculars. Dig deeper, pull out the microscope, and examine the elements in your heart. Keep going. Believe in yourself. Take a break. Pace yourself. Choose to look at life through a different lens. Choose to figuratively speak another language. Replace all the “needs” with “get to’s” “desire to” “want to” “deserve to” “worthy of.” Choose to wake up with gratitude. Heal yourself.
How do you want to feel? What area of your life are you committed to working on? Stop planning for the future and start living today. Tomorrow is not a guarantee.