CLEARING THE SPACE
I recently read Marie Kondo’s book, “the life-changing magic of tidying up.” Not only was it an easy read, it was AWESOME. The NY Times refers to the book as a “liberating manifesto.” I second that. In following Marie’s method, I physically and emotionally feel lighter. Having more space and having my house “in order” has allowed for more flow in my life, more time for my family, more time for creativity, and more time to BREATHE.
I talked to a friend about how liberated I felt to clear out the clothes that I was hanging onto. Those dresses, those pants, and that skirt I was saving “just in case” I went back to working outside the walls of a hospital. Did I love them? No. Did I get excited to wear them? Not really. Did they look and feel fabulous on me? Not 100%. In this present moment do I need them? Hell no. Do I trust that if in the future I need to dress professionally I can buy something I love; something that brings me joy? Yes. I didn’t think I owned a lot of clothes, but it was sobering to see bags and bags of my stuff pile up. The friend that I talked to just had a baby about 5 months ago and told me how she would like to clear out her closet too, but wanted to save some of her clothes for when she lost the baby weight. How many of us have gone through this? I know I did – twice. Who are we kidding though? Hips don’t lie. Whether we lost the baby weight or not, carrying and birthing babies changes our body forever. Get rid of those old clothes that don’t fit, that are out of style, that frustrate you, that serve as a reminder of the body that once was, and give yourself permission to buy something new and fabulous.
To quote Marie, “When we honestly confront the things we own, they evoke many emotions within us.” It’s amazing to experience these emotions when we allow ourselves to be vulnerable; to authentically confront our possessions. As you can imagine, some of the emotions that surface are not always pleasant. Feelings of anger, sadness, and loneliness may be lurking in the dark corners of our closets. When my brother died in 2012, we cleared out most of his things. There were a few things I kept, like his 2 pairs of unused Burton snowboard boots. I thought that I could sell the boots or give them away to someone who could use them. I posted them on Craigslist. I contacted all the snowboarding dudes I knew. But I could not find them a home! So they sat in our coat closet – for 4 years! I finally and lovingly placed them in a bag and sat them on the curb for one of our donation pick-ups. I am confident that someone, somewhere is using them.
Do you have “stuff” you would like to clear out? To donate, to sell, to repurpose? Are you unsure of where to start or overwhelmed at the thought of it? Do you feel like you don’t have the time? I know I felt all of these things and more. This beautiful, bold and juicy life that I am creating is a way of living lighter.